Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Guest Blogger: Karen Davis

(This week's post comes from Karen Davis, one of our youth team leaders.  Karen is a regular blogger at cantsparethechange.com)


I hate waste and the older I get the more it drives me crazy.  Waste of any kind frustrates me, but nothing irks me more than wasting time. 

It’s been a lifelong battle and yet when I say this people are surprised.  I am one of the most productive time wasters you could meet.  Yes, I accomplish a lot but the trouble is I only have two speeds—overdrive or stalled.  There’s no middle ground and both exhaust me.  On one end of the spectrum it takes a lot more momentum to get going and on the other there’s no time to catch your breath. 

It’s a vicious cycle to say the least and one I’ve never had a great deal of success breaking free from.  Project after project I promise to give myself more time to clear the gate and make it to the finish line only to find I’m behind.  It’s de-moralizing, but recently I’ve made some unexpected progress in my lifelong pursuit of “more time.”    

In February I traveled to San Diego with a group of folks from church to attend Donald Miller’s Storyline Conference.  I didn’t expect the conference would talk about time management so I was surprised when the subject came up.  It made sense though.  Finding your subplot in God’s story and pursuing it takes time.  In fact, it requires time more than money.   Most people think of it the other way around but Miller de-bunks that myth.  

He talked about his own struggles and I could relate to everything he said.  It felt like he was living my life so I was dying to know what helped him?  Was it a new planning system, a re-ordering of priorities or just sheer willpower?  The answer was a little bit of all of those things but from a more strategic perspective. This involved understanding why you procrastinate in the first place.    A concept so simple it never occurred to me. 


To help with that discovery Miller recommended a book called, “The Now Habit,” by Neil Fiore.  The name of the book resonated with me so deeply I downloaded it on my iPad that night.  I couldn’t put it down because for the first time I was engaged in a conversation about why I waste time rather than why that’s bad. 
It was liberating.  Where I blamed what I assumed was some deep-seeded laziness or lack of organization on my part I came to see that’s not the case.  It’s neither of those.  I’m just normal. Procrastinating isn’t about being a slug it’s about pain relief.  People procrastinate because it relieves the stress associated with getting done what needs doing.  Which begs the question why is the “To Do” list so stressful? 

For everyone the answer is different but for me it’s about boredom.  On a daily basis I have a long list of things that need to be done that I consider very tedious and boring. Since that work is unpleasant, I put it off as long as possible.  They aren’t difficult tasks but they offer little gratification making it hard to get motivated.  So, I wait until the last possible minute and then I grit it out which only makes the problem worse.
What’s the remedy?  Turn things around.  Start with the work that excites me (ministry) for thirty minutes a day no matter what and use that as the momentum to tackle the things that don’t.  A simple idea but one I’ve always felt too guilty to embrace.  My Puritan work ethic has led me to believe that I don’t get to make that choice.  I always have to start with what’s the most pressing even if it’s something I hate. 

Changing my tact took a leap of faith but since giving it a try I’ve become exponentially more productive. I’m happier too because I know I’ve accomplished something I think may benefit God’s Kingdom.  My friends and family might not notice a difference but only because I’ve had them fooled.  But, God knows and my spirit knows there’s less waste and that feels good. 

So, what’s at the root of your battle with procrastination?  Do you know?  If God’s work here on earth could benefit from you finding out would you?  I hope so. 



Thursday, March 21, 2013

Vulnerability, TED, and the Leadership Summit

I've only been following TED Talks for the past year or so.  TED is a global organization that brings together scholars, leaders, businesspeople, politicians, and others to share their thoughts and become a global forum for ideas.  It's not a specifically Christian venture, and it's fascinating almost every time I listen.

About 3 years ago, a talk was posted by a professor and researcher from the University of Houston (my mom's alma matter) about vulnerability.  The talk went viral and has now been viewed over 8 million times!  Here's the link to the talk by Dr. Brene Brown:

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

Here's her follow-up talk from last year:

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame.html

I'll just warn you: in both talks, she does use a few choice words.  The content of her talk in both cases is outstanding, particularly in her initial message on vulnerability.  As a social researcher, much of her work focuses on how people navigate modern life, how we interact with each other, and what motivates us.  These are topics that Jesus knows intimately and cared about in every aspect of his ministry.

As the church, we have a lot to learn about being a more vulnerable group of people, especially in our willingness to accept others (as Christ does of us) exactly where they are.  We can welcome men and women of any background without compromising our integrity as people of the Word; one of the keys to this task is the kind of vulnerability Dr. Brown describes in her talk.

I hope you'll take a few minutes and listen to what Dr. Brown has to say.  Each talk is only 20 minutes long, and well worth your time.  Also, Dr. Brown will be one of the faculty members at this year's Leadership Summit, which will be on August 8-9 at the Avalon Theater.

May God bless us as we listen to the wisdom of others and seek to be a more vulnerable and caring community for the sake of Christ.

Solo Dei gloria,

Travis

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Parenting "Turns"

It's 1:48am this morning.  Our little guy is awake, screaming right into my ear as I carry him while I walk through our house.  My wife is trying to rest upstairs, exhausted from another full day of motherhood.  He screams and cries, his hot tears running down his cheeks, then pressed into my face and neck as I try to calm him down.  Thankfully, there's just enough light in the house that I'm able to circumnavigate hazards like baby toys, blankets, pillows, and any other deadly objects.  He's still hollering with all the might of his little lungs.

Finally, he goes quiet as I lay him down in his crib.  He's still snuffling a little bit, and I leave a pacifier within his reach as I close the door, go back upstairs, and try to make sense of how I'm feeling.

The next day, he and I look like this:


Sorry, I can't get the picture to rotate properly.  Shows what a savvy blogger I am... :)

I'm so grateful for my son, even at 1:48am.  I'm even more amazed now at God's miracle of sending His Son to be with us.  I know it's a cliche to share that statement, but it's true.

Solo Dei gloria,

Travis Fletcher

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

A Full Season


One of my mentors taught me to replace the word “busy” with “full” when describing the pace of ministry.  He liked to avoid “busy” because its often used in the negative sense of the word, and it implies a level of disconnect – as in, “Don’t bother me, I’m busy.”  The past 2 weeks have undoubtedly been the most “full” of my time so far at FPC, but that’s not a bad thing.

I had the privilege of getting to know the Beers family (Warren and his late wife, Mardell) through the memorial service we hosted for Mardell last week.  Like much of what we do around here, I didn’t plan on getting to know them or serve their family in such a specific way, but it was a joy to do so.  When I first came to FPC, Tom taught me how to sit down with a grieving family, interview them, and listen to their memories of their loved one.  It was an honor to do that with the Beers, who were a part of Covenant Pres. for a long time and moved over to FPC in the last few years.  Wonderful people, wonderful celebration of Mardell’s life, and a wonderful experience in ministry – leading a funeral – which I hadn’t done before now.  I co-led the service with Chuck Gerome, the pastor from Covenant, which was also a joy.

The Beers’ memorial service came at the tail-end of a very full season around here.  As someone said recently in our staff meeting, the alternative to having a lot going on at FPC is to be a dead/dying church, which I’m sure none of us would prefer.  I should also say that the other events and duties which made this season especially full – preaching, the leadership retreat, Bible studies, small group, and the community worship service at Fellowship Church – are all good and excellent examples of God’s great love and mercy in our midst.

At the end of a full season, I can say confidently that I’m glad not every season is like this.  At the same time (especially after taking time to rest and recover with my family), I’m grateful that we do have seasons like this in our ministry at FPC.  God is good to us, and Christ leads us into his mission in ways we don’t anticipate.  I’m glad for that.

Solo Dei gloria,

Travis Fletcher

Monday, March 4, 2013

Reflections from Orlando

At the end of January, several folks from FPC and I went to Orlando for the annual gathering of the Fellowship of Presbyterians.  If you're not familiar with FOP, it's a group of churches in the PC(USA) who want to intentionally connect with each other to partner and grow together in sharing the gospel.  The Holy Spirit is doing amazing work through this group of folks, many of whom are close friends and colleagues.  Glenda Moore, one of our elders, sent me her reflections on the trip.


My trip to the Fellowship Conference in Orlando was a learning experience.  What the speakers had to say keep coming back to me.  John Crosby stated that a goal of [churches affiliated with FOP] is to have more baptisms than funerals by 2018...Tod Bolsinger told us the story of Lewis & Clark.  Lewis & Clark expected to go from coast to coast on waterways in canoes, but when they reached the headwaters of the Missouri River in  Montana, all that there was between them and the Pacific Ocean were mountains--no waterways.  They found they had to listen to "another voice," that of Sacajawea who helped them attain their goal by horseback over the mountains.  

Another remembered speech was by Gary Haugen of International Justice Mission who invited us to look for trouble.  He believes that the church does not thrive in safety.  Breakout Sessions were interesting:  "Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, and Jesus."  Tara Chase was a missionary and told of some of her stories.  "Lift Up Your Hearts," was about music in the church and a new hymnal that is due out this summer. 

My observations of the four churches of the people I met at lunches were mostly smaller churches struggling with declining membership.  Two of the four had joined Fellowship, one from suburban Orlando, the other from North Carolina; a third from Iowa was thinking about it, and the two elders from a suburban church in Florida wanted to convince their Session to join.  All had questions about how the affinity groups work.  My impression is that First Pres is headed in the right direction compared to the churches I was able to meet.  But Gary Haugen says that things start going downhill when we feel safest.

Let's continue to pray for FPC, for the churches with whom we share mission through the Fellowship, and for our ongoing mission and ministry.  In April, our pastors, session, and staff will head to the Denver area to meet with the four churches with whom we'll partner through the Fellowship.  Pray that our time together will lead to flourishing mission and ministry in the name of Christ.  If you'd like to know more about FOP, their website is: fellowship-pres.org.

Shalom,

Travis